Love, Life, and Blogging

OMG! I can’t believe it’s already 2020 and most importantly I can’t believe my birthday is right around the corner! Like seriously, February second will be here before you know it! I want to send out a special birthday shout out to all my fellow Aquarius’s out there. You beautiful people you! 😘😘 Most importantly I can’t believe I’ve been blogging for over a year!! 🎉🎊💃🏾💃🏾 I feel like it’s been forever since I last posted and there is sooo much I HAVE to tell you. So let’s discuss a little Love, Life and Blogging shall we?

Let’s Catch up

So I want to kind of wrap up how my 2019 ended since I legit stop being a blogger. 🙄 Ok, let me rephrase that last statement. I took a VERY necessary break from blogging and decided that being in the moment was far more important. You know indulging in this crazy thing called LIFE? 🤷‍♀️

The last time I seriously blogged I believe that I wrote about my infamous blogging income report. If you’ve never read any of my income reports you should definitely check out a few.

Since we have a lot to catch up on I should definitely break it down for you. We have to dive into my love life, my friends, my work life, and last but not least my family. Then I will wrap things up with what I plan on bringing to you this year on my blog. As I grow, I’d like my blog to do the same. Hopefully you’re ready for this ride. 😉

The Transformation of Love

To be in love or not to be in love, that is the question? 🤔 This spring and most of the summer I took the liberty of dating. I met a couple of amazing guys and a lot of losers, (go figure, right?) but I didn’t give up on the thought of finding love. Ironically enough though, I did realize that dating is NOT what it use to be. Especially for a hard working woman like myself. I work two jobs, I try really hard to love on all my family, and friends but sometimes a woman is just exhausted and only wants to cuddle up in bed and just relax! 

Well if I did what would ultimately make me happy, I would stay happily SINGLE! I would legit tell my friends, family, and some guys that I talked to….”If my husband doesn’t meet me in Target, Walmart, Publix, Hobby Lobby, Burlington, Marshalls, or the gas station, the good Lord will have to literally drop him in front on my car.” That’s how over dating I was. 😂🤦🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️ I kid you no lie. I dated so much in the spring and summer I damn near gave up. Well that was until I met this one guy.

How if Always Starts…

Have you ever met someone new and right away you two clicked? Like talking on the phone five hours straight and it felt like a hour?
That’s what it felt like talking to this guy. We just clicked right away. He talked and I listened. I talked and he understood me. This vibe was just real. I’m talking sooo real that this man broke my morning do not talk to me trend. 😂 I am NOT a morning person so naturally I HATE talking in the morning to anyone. (Besides my mama of course 😛).

This man would call me in the morning and I would get butterflies. (Hell anytime he called and I saw his name pop up on my screen I had butterflies). I haven’t been excited to talk to a man in so long that I forgot what it felt like. We never had that awkward silence when talking on the phone. We just wanted to really get to know one another, and the best part about it was it was light and airy. It was never a forced thing with us, everything just flowed naturally.

The Levels of Dating

Our first date definitely didn’t go as planned, but then again how many first dates do? It had its own set of hiccups and yet almost six months later we’re still talking. I allowed myself to open up fully to another man, and although it was nerve wracking and hella scary, I did it. When you choose to let go and lead with your heart and not your head, you take the risk of getting your heart broken. I knew loving this man would make me susceptible to getting hurt, but I was ok with that because I felt like he was worth it. And just like that, my feelings was exposed to hurt. But with hurt comes healing, and with healing comes growth, and with growth comes knowledge. And everyone knows knowledge is power. You learn from your circumstances and it makes you stronger. It might sound crazy, but I’m thankful for my rollercoaster love. I mean, show me a perfect relationship. 👀 All in all I’m happy and at peace and I’m continuing my journey faithfully. 

What About Your Friends?

Well one of my BEST friends, the first person I met in college my freshman year had her very first child! 🤗🎉👶🏾 Baby Ivy is sooo freaking gorgeous and I was elated to not only meet her but to spend much need time with her and my besties growing family. I also got to spend some quality time with my other bestie from college and help celebrate her son’s birthday. 🎈🎁 Although I don’t get to see my sisters often because we don’t stay near each other, I try to make the important events when I can. These ladies have no idea how much I ride for them. Taking a step back from blogging to enjoy special and epic moments with these ladies was absolutely priceless. I Love you ladies!! 😘🥰 Some of my BEST supporters.

This Thing Called Work

Now the end of 2019 was extremely stressful for me personally. I was working a dead end job that I dreaded going to every single day. My relationship or lack thereof was on an emotional rollercoaster and my manager who I looked up to at one point had blindsided me for THE very last time. I mean seriously, have you ever had a job where you busted your ass to not only make your manager happy but also your superiors? And still nothing you do is ever good enough to get you to that promotion you not only worked so hard for but aimed all your efforts towards? Ha, this job had me ready to Dave Chappelle they asses.

The Situation

I had a situation at my job where another co-worker who was hired after me got a promotion before me, which doesn’t sound terrible right? I mean people get looked over all the time in the workplace. But in this situation a position was CREATED for this person out of thin air. A position I felt like I had earned after three and half years of working for this company. But instead I was looked over and made to feel less than. That very situation was the slap in the face I needed to wake my ass up and then walk out of that company.

Clearly my manager didn’t see my worth anymore, so I had to find another manager who did. Less than a month of looking, I had five back to back interviews and two job offers on the table. I had the pleasure of being stressed out over two major companies who literally fought over hiring me. The tug of war was so extreme that it no longer became about the money because both jobs were paying. Now, I had to decide which company would provide me with the growth and stability I needed long term?

On November 1st, 2019, I started my new journey with an amazing staff and a manager who not only saw my worth but displayed it upfront by making sure I knew that she would fight for me a thousand times over. I not only appreciated her but I respected her. Something I lost sight of in my old job a long time ago.

You Can’t Choose Your Family

If any of you know me on a personal level then you know my family is my LIFE. We don’t always get along, we don’t always speak, but at the end of the day we are ALWAYS here for one another. At the end of October my mom found out she had cancer. No one expects to go for a routine check up and then get the results and think you’ll hear the C word. 😧

Well it happened, and for anyone who has dealt with any form of cancer or know someone who may have went through the journey, you know that it’s scary. Some people’s first thoughts are death. Sad to say but cancer is associated with death. 🤷🏾‍♀️ Now I probably would’ve fell all the way apart when I heard the news from the doctor with my own ears, but my feelings were the complete opposite.

Ok, What’s Next?

I knew that when my mom fully digested the news she would need me. I didn’t have time to breakdown, I had to be super daughter and be the strength she needed when I knew she was weak. I’m not going to lie, I was caught of guard and I was hurt. How could I not be? It’s my mom, my very best friend in the entire world, my whole life, the creator of me. I love this woman with every breath in my body, our hearts beat the same. And although I was in shocked, I moved on with ease because I know how strong she is and she serves a GREAT God! So all I asked the doctor was “Ok, what’s next?”

See a lot of people don’t know, but I’ve had my own journey with cancer myself. So I knew exactly what needed to happen and if I can do it, damnit so can she! My mom knows me, I’m a realist to a fault sometimes, especially when it comes to health. I have nothing against optimism but when I was dealing with my situation, I wanted facts and I wanted to know next steps. What do I need to prepare my mind and body for? Half of the battle of getting through a cancer scare is to have a positive attitude at all times! No one had to tell me that but some people need to be told.

The Outcome

When you stay positive and you surround yourself with people who love and care about you, you can get through anything. One thing I told myself when I was going through my situation, I said “Vee, we’re not going to EVER ask why this is happening”. To me it didn’t matter why, I knew that the God I serve would never give me more than I can handle and it was true. I had my surgeries, went through the struggle and moved on with life. I have my battle wounds but you know what? I’ve been cancer free for two years and counting!!! 🎉🎉🎉 I’ll get screened for the next three years of my life and that’s the easy part. At the end of the day you do what you have to do.

My mom had her successful surgery and she too will do what she needs to do to remain healthy. She has made me soooo very proud. My super woman, my shero. She knew what she had to do and she has been pushing through her recovery like a G. I’m so very lucky to be able to call her mom. Love you mama! 💕😘🥰💕 Special thanks to all my love ones, my family and friends who helped me through this journey in my life. I couldn’t have done it without yall.

Blog Life Baby!

Now let’s see what I have in store for you my lovely readers this year….So last year I mainly blogged about:

• Fashion
• Interior Design
• Retail Rants
• Travel
• Income Reports
• Inspirational Quotes

Now most of that I will probably continue to do, but I think I also want to filter in some new categories. I mean, I do think it’s time for my baby blog to grow a little. Maybe get some new eyes on my page. With everything that has happened in the last few months of my life I find myself consumed with different things. Here are my thoughts on the new direction of designs-byvee:

• Interior Design
• Travel
• Inspirational Quotes
• Love Notes

Of course I will still talk about the other topics here and there but I’ve transitioned in my life. Right now I’m doing great! I have a good job, great friends, amazing family, working on love, and I have a strong desire to get married and have kids real soon. So soon that I announced it at work outloud January 2nd. I told everyone “I’m getting engaged this year!” Granted I’m not in a relationship yet 😂😂…but they say it’s good to speak things into existence. Well I’m not only speaking love, family and prosperity. I’m speaking good health and wealth too.

Let’s Keep In Touch

I won’t lie and say that I haven’t truly missed you guys. My blogging friends, my blogging community, everyone who actually took the time out to read my baby blog throughout the year. Your love for my work has not gone unnoticed. I promise not to stay away this long anymore 😁😂 I want to stay connected with you. So let’s keep in touch. Catch me up on what’s been new with you and PLEASE let me know your thoughts on my new direction for my blog. Comments are always loved around here. Thank you again for sticking with me and taking time out to reconnect with my blog.

Love Always,

R.I.P to Kobe & GiGi Bryant 🙏🏾

Also R.I.P to all the precious lives lost in that helicopter crash 🙏🏾